Lessons from a Loser

I am here to report my blog article on event technology did not end up winning the Right.Brains Digital Talent of the Year award.


I would be lying if I said I was not disappointed. Especially after blasting the nomination on social media. Aca-akward.

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Yes, it was a pleasure being nominated. Yes, I was very proud I had finally taken action after years of listening to my fears, making excuses, and allowing people to talk me out of it.

Regardless, it was hard to ignore feeling like a big fat LOSER and subsequently losing myself in a pint of ice cream, Oreo cookies, and my kids Halloween candy.

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Allegedly, in all experiences, there is a lesson to be learned, so I put the spoon down and went looking for some insight and a sugar-free solution to my woes.

Here are 10 Lessons on Losing that really resonated:

1. Sometimes you lose. Nothing you can do but admit it.

 -SARAH DESSEN, Along for the Ride

2. Losing is part of the game. If you never lose, you are never truly tested, and never forced to grow. 

-DAVID SIRLIN, Playing to Win: Becoming the Champion

3. Losing … really does say something about who you are. Among other things it measures are: Do you blame others, or do you own the loss? Do you analyze your failure, or just complain about bad luck? If you’re willing to examine failure, and to look not just at your outward physical performance, but your internal workings, too, losing can be valuable. How you behave in those moments can perhaps be more self-defining than winning could ever be. Sometimes losing shows you for who you really are.

-LANCE ARMSTRONG, Every Second Counts

4. Losing is only temporary and not all-encompassing. You must simply study it, learn from it, and try hard not to lose the same way again. Then you must have the self-control to forget about it.

-JOHN WOODEN, attributed, 1001 Motivational Messages and Quotations for Athletes and Coaches

5. That’s what learning is, after all; not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we’ve changed because of it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other games. Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

-RICHARD BACH, The Bridge Across Forever

6. Losing would be painful, but not as painful as knowing there was something else you could’ve done.

-JOE TRIPPI, The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

7. You were not born a winner and you were not born a loser, you are what you make yourself be.


8. Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.


9. If you learn from defeat you haven’t really lost. 


10. Losing isn’t always the end, sometimes it becomes the beginning 


I may have “lost” this one…but doesn’t all change involve loss? DING! DING! DING! We have a winner folks, I do believe I have learned something!

This is definitely just the beginning.

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Who’s with me?

Eventfully, Angela


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A Chicago native, Angela is a self-proclaimed event-geek and celebrator of everything. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! She currently resides with her husband and 3 kids in the Atlanta, Georgia area and has been the Sr. Meeting and Event Planner for Ingersoll Rand, a global Industrial Company, since 2009. She recently debuted her blog, Eventfully Angela, writing about industry tips and the overall musings of her eventfully crazy life as an event planner and beyond. She can also be found sharing event industry eye-candy on Instagram @eventfullyangela. Thoughts and views shared are her own.